Your inner voice is saying Help! I’m scared… (and why you should ignore it).
Most people tend to listen to their inner voice. It tells them things, it warns them about places, people and situations. Some may call it intuition.
That is where there is a difference. I like to think of it this way; intuition is a very deeply rooted feeling, a sixth sense if you like, whereas your inner voice can sometimes mislead you, resulting in missed opportunities in your life.
When applying for a new job or setting up a new business situation, some folks feel downright scared. Some of them even listen to their inner voice telling them they are not capable of taking the desired step.
But just where does this feeling come from – and most importantly, what can be done to counteract it?
First of all, a feeling of insecurity is a feeling that most people will recognise during some part of their lives. Lots of us think that other people are more knowledgeable, have more talent, education, self-confidence and on and on… so even if they spot that dream job, they feel defeated before even attempting to apply. Another big, bad feeling is that of failure, because heavens above – what will happen if I make a mistake?
We live in a competitive world, that’s a fact. But it doesn’t mean that it’s a bad thing. To be competitive you don’t have to shout and make a fuss. In fact it’s probably just the opposite. Quiet self-control and confidence is the key.
Am I good enough to apply for this job?
Remember, if you prepare well (take look at our previous blog: “Are you job fit for 2015?”) you have just as much chance as anybody else. Also, it’s not just about your skills. People want to employ people and that means someone who is friendly, hardworking and fits into a team. As long as your skills are up to scratch, most companies embrace the fact that new employees want to learn more because that is the point of a new job: to grow and learn. It’s nothing to be afraid of. If you don’t get the job then good and honest feedback can help you on your way to your next application.
Some of us feel that others may think we are not as good as we make out to be and that the world can be an unfriendly place that is “out to get you”. Of course, when we apply for a new job we are selling ourselves. We have to tell others how good we are at certain things; something many of us don’t feel comfortable about. This is easy to understand, but “messing things up” or “blowing it” are phrases that are usually used to describe every day mistakes. Do you know one person that has never in his or her life made a mistake? I don’t, that’s for sure! Getting out of your comfort zone at work is sometimes scary but it’s a learning curve and should be enjoyed and embraced. We all admire people who have the guts to try something new. Starting the thought process of accepting that mistakes are sometimes made is a great way of dealing with the failure issue.
The way you look at life makes all the difference. It is the difference between thinking “I can’t do it” or “it’s a challenge”. Believing that most of us are interested in meeting new people is always a big comfort, because basically we are the same the world over. Realising this when making the decision to go for that new job is very empowering! People want other people to succeed at the things they love to do.
Now and again a situation will occur and you may get torn down and overly criticised in your working life. This can be a devastating feeling, but how important is it? Some criticism is really good and you can learn from it. Sometimes it’s plain nastiness and jealousy. Not nice. If you are following your dream then you mustn’t let it get in your way, because what is one opinion in a whole world. Usually, controversial figures are very successful because they don’t give a damn what other people think! This is especially true for creative personalities; they do what they believe in.
So don’t let time pass you by and regret what you didn’t do, there’s a great career out there for you.